
I feel that it’s time that I address this.
I know some of my friends might not think that I’m not a good friend simply because when they try to share their problems with me and ask me for my opinion, I always try to avoid discussing about it.
That does make me look like a bad friend, but really, in my defense, whenever the topic comes up, it’s never a good time for me to actually discuss about it. Now, I guess, it’s time for me to address it.
I’ve listen to the stories from the guy, the girl, the friend and the housemate. My advice is simple, and this could also be applied to other situations as well, because I do apply it in my everyday life and I’m happy with it – or at least I think I am, but I digress.
Here’s the thing, when faced with a hard choice, just ask yourself, is it worth it?
Seriously, is the trouble and hassle that goes with it worth it? If not, then just walk away. I mean, I’ve done it a lot, not because I’m a coward, but simply for the fact that I don’t need the trouble or hassle in my life, I just don’t think that it’s worth it, so I walk away. This is probably the reason why I’m still single – mainly because I don’t want any major dramas in my life, so when I think it’s not worth it, I just walk away. So yeah, if you think that what you’re facing isn’t worth the drama, then you’d know it’s not important in the first place, so it’s better to walk away.
That said, if you do think that it is worth it, then go for it. Go and do it. Seriously. If you really do think that all the hassle and trouble are worth the end game, then by all means, do it. Forget what everyone else might think or say, you just go and do it. Fight for it, fight for every point, and make sure that you fight until the end because the end result is, what you believe to be worth it. Yeah, you might get hurt, but you might also get what you’ve always wanted.
For the friend and housemate, I’m sure that you want to help your friend, ensure that your friend makes the right choice and you want to protect them, and it’s a noble thing to do. However, at the end of the day, you just have to let go, let your friend make her own decision, yeah, maybe it won’t be for the best, maybe she’ll end up hurting herself, but you just got to let her do it.
Its part of life, live and let learn. When that happens, when she gets hurt, the true mark of a friend is being there for her and resisting the urge to say “I told you so.”
It’s simple really, you could ask anyone that is everyone for advice, but at the end of the day, you just have to ask yourself whether it’s worth it, and just listen to your heart.